Life Lessons from the WHO WILL CRY WHEN YOU DIE? by ROBIN SHARMA

Sudhanshu Jha
7 min readAug 30, 2020

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Discover Your Calling

Find your calling. I believe we all have special talents that are just waiting to be engaged in a worthy pursuit. We are all here for some unique purpose, some noble objective that will allow us to manifest our highest human potential while we, at the same time, add value to the lives around us.

Finding your calling doesn’t mean you must leave the job you now have. It simply means you need to bring more of yourself into your work and focus on the things you do best. It means you have to stop waiting for other people to make the changes you desire and, as Mahatma Gandhi noted: “ Be the change that you wish to see most in your world. ” And once you do your life will change.

Every Day, Be Kind to Stranger

On his deathbed, Aldous Huxley reflected on his entire life’s learning and then summed it up in seven simple words: “Let us be Kinder to one another.”

Maintain Your Perspective

To live happier, more fulfilling lives, when we encounter a difficult circumstance, we must keep shifting our perspective and continually ask ourselves, “Is there a wiser, more enlightened way of looking at this seemingly negative situation?”

Stephen Hawking, one of the greatest physicists ever, is reported to have said that we live on a minor planet of a very average star located within the outer limits of one of a hundred thousand million galaxies. How’s that for a shift in perspective? Given this information, are your troubles really that big? Are the problems you have experienced or the challenges you might currently be facing really as serious as you have made them out to be?

We walk this planet for such a short time. In the overall scheme of things, our lives are mere blips on the canvas of eternity. So have the wisdom to enjoy the journey and savor the process.

Practice Tough Love

The golden thread of a highly successful and meaningful life is self -discipline. Discipline allows you to do all those things you know in your heart you should do but never feel like doing. Without self -discipline, you will not set clear goals, manage your time effectively, treat people well, persist through the tough times, care for your health, or think positive thoughts.

I call the habit of self- discipline “Tough Love” because getting tough with yourself is actually a very loving gesture.

Keep a Journal

Maintaining a daily journal is one of the best personal growth initiatives you will ever take. Writing down your daily experiences along with the lessons you have drawn from them will make you wiser with each passing day.

you will develop self -awareness and make fewer mistakes. And keeping a journal will help clarify your intentions so that you remain focused on the things that truly count.

Writing in a journal offers you the opportunity to have regular one-on-one conversations with yourself. It forces you to do some deep thinking in a world where deep thinking is thing of the past. It will also make you a clearer thinker and help you live in a more intentional and enlightened way.

A journal is not a diary. A diary is a place where you records events while a journal is a place where you analyze and evaluate them. Keeping a journal encourages you to consider what you do, why you do it, and what you have learned from all you have done.

Medical researchers have even found that writing in a private journal for as little time as 15 minutes a day can improve health, the functioning of your immune system, and your overall attitude.

Develop an Honesty Philosophy

We live in a world of broken promises. We live in a time when people treat their words lightly.

The real problem is that when you don’t keep your word, you lose credibility When you lose credibility, you break the bonds of trust. And breaking the bonds of trust ultimately leads to a string of broken relationships.

To develop an honesty philosophy, begin to monitor how many small untruths you tell over the course of a week. Go on what I call a “truth fast” for the next seven days and vow to be completely honest in all your dealings with others — and with yourself. Every time you fail to do the right thing, you fuel the habit of doing the wrong thing. Every time you do not tell the truth, you feed the habit of untruthful. When you promise someone you will do something, do it. Be a person of your word rather than being “all talk and no action.”

Honor Your Past

Remember, happy people have often experienced as much adversity as those who are unhappy. What sets them apart is that they have good sense to manage their memories in a way that enriches their lives.

And understand that if you have failed more than others, there is a very good chance you are living more completely than others. Those who take more chances and dare to be more and do more than others will naturally experience more failures. But personally, I would rather have the bravery to try something and then fail than never to have tried it at all.

As Herodotus noted so sagely, “ It is better by noble boldness to run the risk of being subject to half of the evils we anticipate than to remain in cowardly listlessness for fear of what may happen.”

Or as Booker T. Washington said, “ I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles he has overcome while trying to succeed.”

Start Your Day Well

The way you begin your day determines the way you will live your day. I call the first thirty minutes after you wake up “ The Platinum 30” since they are truly the most valuable moments of your day and have a profound influence on the quality of every minute that follows.

Learn to Say No Gracefully

It is easy to say yes to every request to your time when the priorities of your life are unclear.

“ If your priorities don’t get scheduled into your planner other people’s priorities will get put into your planner.” The solution is to be clear about your life’s highest objectives and then to learn to say no with grace.

The Chinese sage Chuang-tzu told the story of a man who forged swords for a maharaja. Even at the age of ninety, his work was carried out with exceptional precision and ability. No matter how rushed he was, he never made even the slightest slip. One day, the maharaja asked the old man, “ Is this a natural talent or is there some special technique that you use to create your remarkable result?” “ It is concentration on the essentials,” replied the sword-crafter. “ I took to forging swards when I was twenty-one years old. I did not care about anything else. If it was not a sword, I did not look at it or pay any attention to it. Forging swords become my passion and my purpose. I took all the energy that I did not give in other directions and put it in the direction of my art. This is the secret to my mastery.”

The most effective people concentrate on their “area of excellence,” that is, on the things they do best and on those high- impact activities that will advance their life work. In being so consumed by the important things, they find it easy to say no to the less- than-worthy distractions that clamor for their attention.

Michael Jorden, the best basketball player in the game’s history, did not negotiate his contracts, design his uniforms and prepare his travel schedules. He focused his time and energies on what he did best: playing basketball and delegated everything else to his handlers.

Jazz great Louis Armstrong did not spend his time selling tickets to his shows and setting up chairs for the audience. He concentrated on his point of brilliance: playing the trumpet. Learning to say no to the non-essentials will give you more time to devote to the things that have the power to truly improve the way you live and help you leave the legacy you know in your heart you are destined to leave.

Take a Weekly Sabbatical

In ancient days, the seventh day of the week was known as the Sabbath.

Stress itself is not a bad thing. It can often help us perform at our best, expand beyond our limits, and achieve things that would otherwise astonish us. Just ask any elite athlete. The real problem lies in the fact that in the age of global anxiety we do not get enough relief from stress. So to revitalize yourself and nourish the deepest part of you, plan for a weekly period of peace — a weekly sabbatical — to get back to the simpler pleasures of life, pleasures that you may have given up as your days grew busier and your life more complex.

Your weekly sabbatical does not have to last a full day. Sunday morning, when you can spend some time doing the things you love to do the most. Ideas include spending time in your favorite bookstore, watching the sunrise, taking a solitary walk along a beach, and writing in your journal. Organizing your life so that you get to do more of the things you love to do is one of the first steps to life improvement. Who cares if others don’t understand what you are trying to accomplish by making the weekly sabbatical an essential part of your life, Do it for yourself, you are worth it.

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